Personality Studies

I have a very good friend from when I lived in SC that I've been talking to quite a bit again lately, for various reasons we lost touch for a few years, and because of things going on in both of our lives and the discussions we've been having it's been brought up that we're both INFJ personality type.  Which is awesome to finally figure out that one of your dearest friends is the same type as you when it's so rare (about 1% of the population for those who don't know).  Out of curiosity I wanted to know what type my husband is, but I didn't think he'd be willing to sit down and actually go through the test so I did it without him to see if the answer I got was at least close to how I see him.  Spot on.  Which is ironic in 2 aspects; 1: I shouldn't have doubted myself and my knowledge of him given my personality type, and 2: given his, ESTP, it's no wonder at all that he wouldn't have actually sat down to do the test.  As you I'm sure noticed, we're polar opposites personality wise, which worried me for a bit when I first got his result.  Did I make a mistake marrying him, are we doomed to fail?  I know that it's way more than personality that makes a marriage but that's still a big part of it, and to have two people together where one loves deep meaningful conversations and the other by nature avoids them...I felt there was a lot to be concerned about.  But then I recalled my friend telling me about paradox-type personalities.  Like a color wheel, opposites complement each other, and it's the same for personalities.  You keep the Sensing or iNtuitive part, but the other letters switch, which would put me as ENTP and my husband as ISFJ.  Neither of those types fit us 100% like our actual ones do, but there are aspects of them that are pretty spot on, and it explains a lot for when either of us seem "off".  Also, I feel like the CP's (complementary personalities) help us understand each other and our needs better, which helps us work as a couple.  It's been fascinating to study so far and I'm really excited to keep digging, maybe I can catch him on a good day and chat with him about it to help him understand me better (even though sometimes I still don't understand myself).  My friend has started a blog, infjinside.com where she will be talking about what her life is like as an INFJ to try and help people understand us better and to also understand herself better, and she has invited me to write from time to time, so you may see me there, who knows!  It's in the beginning stages right now, but I'm super excited for her to get going with it and to study all this with her!  Till next time :)