Thursday, February 23, 2017
Personality Studies
I have a very good friend from when I lived in SC that I've been talking to quite a bit again lately, for various reasons we lost touch for a few years, and because of things going on in both of our lives and the discussions we've been having it's been brought up that we're both INFJ personality type. Which is awesome to finally figure out that one of your dearest friends is the same type as you when it's so rare (about 1% of the population for those who don't know). Out of curiosity I wanted to know what type my husband is, but I didn't think he'd be willing to sit down and actually go through the test so I did it without him to see if the answer I got was at least close to how I see him. Spot on. Which is ironic in 2 aspects; 1: I shouldn't have doubted myself and my knowledge of him given my personality type, and 2: given his, ESTP, it's no wonder at all that he wouldn't have actually sat down to do the test. As you I'm sure noticed, we're polar opposites personality wise, which worried me for a bit when I first got his result. Did I make a mistake marrying him, are we doomed to fail? I know that it's way more than personality that makes a marriage but that's still a big part of it, and to have two people together where one loves deep meaningful conversations and the other by nature avoids them...I felt there was a lot to be concerned about. But then I recalled my friend telling me about paradox-type personalities. Like a color wheel, opposites complement each other, and it's the same for personalities. You keep the Sensing or iNtuitive part, but the other letters switch, which would put me as ENTP and my husband as ISFJ. Neither of those types fit us 100% like our actual ones do, but there are aspects of them that are pretty spot on, and it explains a lot for when either of us seem "off". Also, I feel like the CP's (complementary personalities) help us understand each other and our needs better, which helps us work as a couple. It's been fascinating to study so far and I'm really excited to keep digging, maybe I can catch him on a good day and chat with him about it to help him understand me better (even though sometimes I still don't understand myself). My friend has started a blog, infjinside.com where she will be talking about what her life is like as an INFJ to try and help people understand us better and to also understand herself better, and she has invited me to write from time to time, so you may see me there, who knows! It's in the beginning stages right now, but I'm super excited for her to get going with it and to study all this with her! Till next time :)
Wednesday, January 25, 2017
Musings
"Lead on, O King Eternal, til sin's fierce war shall cease, and holiness shall whisper the sweet amen of peace; for not with swords loud clashing, nor roll of stirring drums, with deeds of love and mercy the heav'nly kingdom comes."
While I'm grateful to live in a country with so much freedom, America has made me so sad since I've been old enough to be truly aware of what goes on in the country. We (as a whole, I know there are many people who are kind and good and generous etc. but I say we because I feel this is how other countries view us sadly) are so selfish and hateful and so self-absorbed that we can't focus on what is actually important in life. We're so busy "bettering ourselves" that we're not bettering the country. So many riots, killings, hateful words spoken because of a difference of opinion, hateful opinions and accusations being thrown around because somebody makes a mistake; we're a country divided, and I fear for us. And now we have a new President that many people vehemently speak against, those in support say it's because the others didn't get their way when truly if Clinton had won those in support of Trump would likely be doing the same thing. We raise ourselves up and fail to see that if we were in other's shoes we'd be doing the same thing they are and justifying our actions as quickly as we condemn theirs.
The past few years have been filled with hate against blacks, gays, women, and with TALK about how that needs to change but no ACTIONS to go along with the talk (again, I know that there's exceptions but those exceptions aren't brought up in media outlets enough and therefore mostly unheard of). There may be small groups of people who rally around the victims - family, friends, etc. - but we as a nation don't rally to do anything. Until, ironically, President Trump was elected. We have let rape, shootings in gay bars, hate crimes, etc. go without being so worked up, but one man is elected and SAYS things (I know some things he said were about things he's done but my point is in this particular instance he was speaking not doing anything) and an estimated 1 MILLION people got worked up enough to protest against him in the streets. Now, unlike many people I'm not here to say those people shouldn't have done what they did. One of the many great freedoms of living in this country is the ability to do just that, so yes, go out and protest what you need to, speak up, let your voice be heard, stand behind what you believe. But please don't stop there. Can you imagine if each of those 1 million people donated $10 do Planned Parenthood? (*This is not about me supporting or not supporting anything/one, but bringing up points of the protest.*) What about if even a quarter of those people started up free self defense classes for women? Or how about helping to teach boys how to be gentlemen? Can you imagine 250,000 people willing to go out and teach boys that stuff? "Attendees cited everything from immigration, climate change, foreign aid, racism, income inequality, healthcare, LGBT rights and police brutality as their motivation to be there." I may not know how people could help with those things, but I'm sure there are ways, esp. if they mean so much to you. I know we're all busy but if you can spend an hour? two hours? however long you were out protesting, surely you can take that time and invest it into helping someone or something somewhere. What would happen in this country if 1 million people took an hour out of their day to really help somebody? If we really want to show that we won't put up with what has been happening, or what people in positions of authority say is O.K. then we need to do more than just talk about it and tell them that we think they are wrong. We can talk all day long but at the end of the day it's all just talk, getting out there and actually doing something, like supporting a facility that you care about and is being threatened, is the only way to make changes. And not hatefully, stop focusing on what's wrong and focus on how to make things right. Be loving, be merciful.
While I'm grateful to live in a country with so much freedom, America has made me so sad since I've been old enough to be truly aware of what goes on in the country. We (as a whole, I know there are many people who are kind and good and generous etc. but I say we because I feel this is how other countries view us sadly) are so selfish and hateful and so self-absorbed that we can't focus on what is actually important in life. We're so busy "bettering ourselves" that we're not bettering the country. So many riots, killings, hateful words spoken because of a difference of opinion, hateful opinions and accusations being thrown around because somebody makes a mistake; we're a country divided, and I fear for us. And now we have a new President that many people vehemently speak against, those in support say it's because the others didn't get their way when truly if Clinton had won those in support of Trump would likely be doing the same thing. We raise ourselves up and fail to see that if we were in other's shoes we'd be doing the same thing they are and justifying our actions as quickly as we condemn theirs.
The past few years have been filled with hate against blacks, gays, women, and with TALK about how that needs to change but no ACTIONS to go along with the talk (again, I know that there's exceptions but those exceptions aren't brought up in media outlets enough and therefore mostly unheard of). There may be small groups of people who rally around the victims - family, friends, etc. - but we as a nation don't rally to do anything. Until, ironically, President Trump was elected. We have let rape, shootings in gay bars, hate crimes, etc. go without being so worked up, but one man is elected and SAYS things (I know some things he said were about things he's done but my point is in this particular instance he was speaking not doing anything) and an estimated 1 MILLION people got worked up enough to protest against him in the streets. Now, unlike many people I'm not here to say those people shouldn't have done what they did. One of the many great freedoms of living in this country is the ability to do just that, so yes, go out and protest what you need to, speak up, let your voice be heard, stand behind what you believe. But please don't stop there. Can you imagine if each of those 1 million people donated $10 do Planned Parenthood? (*This is not about me supporting or not supporting anything/one, but bringing up points of the protest.*) What about if even a quarter of those people started up free self defense classes for women? Or how about helping to teach boys how to be gentlemen? Can you imagine 250,000 people willing to go out and teach boys that stuff? "Attendees cited everything from immigration, climate change, foreign aid, racism, income inequality, healthcare, LGBT rights and police brutality as their motivation to be there." I may not know how people could help with those things, but I'm sure there are ways, esp. if they mean so much to you. I know we're all busy but if you can spend an hour? two hours? however long you were out protesting, surely you can take that time and invest it into helping someone or something somewhere. What would happen in this country if 1 million people took an hour out of their day to really help somebody? If we really want to show that we won't put up with what has been happening, or what people in positions of authority say is O.K. then we need to do more than just talk about it and tell them that we think they are wrong. We can talk all day long but at the end of the day it's all just talk, getting out there and actually doing something, like supporting a facility that you care about and is being threatened, is the only way to make changes. And not hatefully, stop focusing on what's wrong and focus on how to make things right. Be loving, be merciful.
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